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Thank you for taking the time to check out my blog! This entry will be an excerpt from my new book MAKES ME WANNA HOLLA, available now at kelleavent.com!
BEAUTIFUL IS MY NAME!
Beautiful is my name regardless race, hair texture, intellect or whatever more I can be judged as. This slogan began as a design for a t-shirt, but its meaning is very appropriate for this book because it speaks to the area of esteem. God created us on purpose and by a blueprint individually designed. Many writers including Plato recorded this statement: “beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” which means the definition of true beauty is subject to the person judging. Therefore; an ugly person based on exterior does not exist. Features, clothing and appearance won’t bring true definition, but character and personality will. A person can wear the newest brand, most popular hairstyle and possess a negative or disrespectful attitude, deeming them unattractive. As a perfect creation of God, we must be confident that “Beautiful” should always the adjective used when describing ourselves. We must believe without doubt in our own beauty and not just in the validation from others. It’s an amazing feeling to be complimented, but what are we to do on the days others forget or neglect to extend a compliment? This is where self-confidence and esteem are extremely important. Sadly, many girls and women both young and old experience great struggle when placing a value on themselves. Perhaps for some, esteem has only been established based on the opinions of friends or family and the ability to self-evaluate is hindered when those accolades cease. A person’s judgment regardless of position in your life should weigh minimally when compared to your own. God desires for us to see ourselves and our sisters as the most amazing of specie He has created. Nonetheless, insecurity has birthed the spirits of jealousy and bitterness, hindering confidence in both self and others.
Have you ever been in a scenario in school or work, and when a certain person enters the room, or perhaps when you enter, a change in attitude takes place? People may roll their eyes or begin whispering because of who they have labeled you to be solely from seeing you. Today we label such a person a “hater,” when more severely than hating; they are revealing their own jealousy and insecurities. Jealousy is described in Webster’s dictionary as: resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., and mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry. (Webster) To exhibit jealousy indicates a deep insecurity that which has not been acknowledged. One form of jealousy often displayed is sibling rivalry, whereas one or more siblings combat another based on the idea the other receives special treatment or has an advantage with parents. Jealousy is actively presented in school, the workplace, church and the world overall. As God’s child, we are entitled to an inheritance which gives us access to experience a successful life. Unfortunately for some, even the greatest level of accomplishments doesn’t suffice, and executives, lawyers, spiritual leaders, etc. demonstrate jealousy for others. The bible declares in Ecclesiastes 3:1 that to everything there is a time and a season, a season to plant and one to harvest. The manifestations and achievements we see are a result of seed time and harvest. However, people have become jealous due to the harvest of others. If we aren’t manifesting, we should be planting or cultivating with goals of doing so soon.
The enemy has used the spirit of jealousy to destroy many relationships and families. We must be mindful to perform daily self-evaluations in even the smallest areas of our lives to ensure jealousy does not exist within us. If discovered to be active, it is very important to acknowledge its presence and gain healing from the insecurities which it is fueled by. God desires for His daughters to be confident in who He has created us to be.
The idea of beauty in my opinion weighs far heavier on women than men, and has caused great damage as a result. Some of us were not adorned as girls or praised for our beauty, so as women; the idea of the label beautiful is absurd. We have adapted to being considered fair or unattractive for so long, we have become lost in the façade. Beauty as defined by our culture has challenged us to believe in order to obtain, it has to be purchased. Therefore, many have spent countless dollars on hair, make-up, wardrobe and plastic surgery only to receive validation according to someone else’s definition. In interim, our true identity has been misplaced. This scenario has been experienced by the vast majority of our society as girls and women. We all have fought to “fit in” with the world’s idea of “norm.” Sadly in doing so, we have created a level of personal frustration and bitterness because the door to conformity has been left open to other issues with identity. What began as a simple adjustment has now become a lifestyle of mistaken identity.
So, how do we regain our identity? The first step is to ask God to bring remembrance of the little girl He created. Secondly, in pursuit of re-acquaintance, decide with confidence the only definition of beauty that matters is God’s because He does not make any mistakes. Each of us was created in His PERFECT image to be used for His glory. Take back the authority you once gave society to define you. Thirdly, begin making changes to your wardrobe and lifestyle to accommodate the “real you,” and finally change your language towards yourself. Speak the language of life which includes: love, encouragement, beauty, prosperity and hope!
Beautiful is your name sister and if you struggled with belief, it is my prayer you will not after reading this chapter. You are amazing, gorgeous, loving, loveable, admirable, intelligent, aspiring, inspiring, gifted, talented, anointed, gracious, an original never to be duplicated, favored, and one of God’s BEST creations. Never distribute the power to anyone that can destroy your confidence. Know that God loves all of you and it warms His heart when He knows you are pleased with what He has created. Repeat this line with me: My parents may have named me (insert name), but today I declare that BEAUTIFUL IS MY NAME!!